It's just my fantasy
(She's a fantasy)
Image in a magazine
(Image in a magazine)
I've seen her face before
(I've seen her face before)
Her body walks out of my door
(Hey, hey, hey, hey)
"Fantasy" by Guy
I said my face bomb, a** tight
Racks stack up Shaq height
Jewelry on me, flashlight
I been lit since last night
Hit him with that good good
Make a ni**a act right
Broke boys don't deserve no pu**y
(I know that's right)
"Up" by Cardi B
I f**ked your favorite Instagram b*tch,
and I hate to tell you she's not that good.
"It's Going Down" by Young Dolph
IN POPULAR CULTURE, the “bad girl” is thought of as an uninhibited woman who is sexually free, someone who is open to adventure and doesn't give a damn what other people think about her.
The ideal “bad girl” plays by her own rules and will try just about anything -- once.
Many of us, at one time or another, have been intimate with a crazy female who had a nice round butt and a smile that would melt the notorious Chicago pimp Iceberg Slim, but who would also stab, poison, break out your car windows, and pull a weapon on you in a heartbeat. We've seen this play out countless times in movies, like the 1987 erotic thriller Fatal Attraction, and in real life, with cases like the brutal 2015 murder of Travis Alexander by his lover Jodi Arias.
Some of us have admittedly put up with this madness because, as ludicrous as it sounds, that old saying about crazy women having high sex drives ("being good in bed") tends to be largely true.
Model: Selamawit Shiferaw
Photographer: Jay Lenard
Stylist: Cindy Beretta
Wardrobe: D. Kash Taylor
MUA: Christopher McQueen
In the age of #MeToo, men in America are inundated with an increasing number of rules and restrictions when it comes to male/female relationships.
“Bad girls” and “THOTs", which is an acronym for “that/those hoes over there”, are appealing to us because they provide a brief, fantastical escape from the responsibilities of life. Their jet set lifestyles are routinely celebrated on "reality television" offerings like Basketball Wives and the Real Housewives of Fill in the Blank shows. Eye-popping inflatable babes get "flewed out" to exotic locales around the world, but they rarely take a meaningful trip down the aisle. When encountered in real life, the experience is often masturbatory at best.
"THOT culture" has become so pervasive it has thoroughly infected traditionally conservative women, like soccer moms and schoolteachers. Even happily married, financially secure famous women, like Aeysah Curry, wife of Golden State Warriors superstar point guard Steph Curry (and a mother of three), bemoan the fact that thirsty men aren't "sliding in their DMs" and shamelessly go out of their way to generate attention in the form of "Likes", "Shares" and corny "emojis".
Different men pursue loose women for different reasons. Old men want new bodies. Young men want anybody. Most single men are looking for a one night stand, while married men often want to satisfy some unfulfilled sexual desire that they're too embarrassed to discuss with their wife.
For shallow men, “Insta-THOTs” (“THOTs on Instagram”) represent the ability to afford the best, which is something they yearn for. From the outside, when properly made up and on their best behavior, some THOTs might appear like potential trophy wives, but unfortunately, many will settle for being a rich man's "baby mama".
Some affluent young black men, like NBA power forward Tristan Thompson of the Cleveland Cavaliers, say they felt "pressured" to "smash" ("have sex with") THOTs, while others, like embattled rapper T.I., have publicly admitted they felt "inadequate".
Most “Insta-THOTs” are voluptuous, young, relatively attractive (when made up), unemployed shopaholics, who still live at home with their parents. Several of the the most popular “Insta-THOTs” are foul-mouthed high school dropouts, or otherwise mentally incapacitated, and totally unsuitable as serious mates. The overwhelming majority of “THOTs” are superficial and have low standards when it comes to men with money. Wannabe "playas", scout bus stops and Wal-Mart parking lots in search of young bodies with weak minds. The dumber the female is, the better (and hopefully easier) she is to sleep with.
The top "Insta-THOTs" come with all the bells and whistles, and cost you about the same as a 2021 BMW X7 Alpina fully-equipped with all the options. The long term maintenance and upkeep on both is about the same, but (according to the City Girls) you can rent one for a Birkin, Gucci, or Chanel bag... or a at least a convincing Korean knockoff.
An increasing number of these women, however, are highly-educated independent businesspeople, who have skillfully used their physical gifts to create a comfortable life for themselves and their families.
We men are hunters by nature, so we love the thrill of the chase... even if it kills us. For many men, “bad b*tches” and “Insta-THOTs” represent the ultimate challenge and ego boost for shallow souls seeking approval.
THOTs validate unattractive, or otherwise challenged, men with money. For these men, a "bad b*tch" is a premium status symbol and they will do almost anything to have one on their arm, even if it means paying thousands of dollars for plastic surgery to achieve that desired look.
THOTs, "bad b*tches" and "party girls" make insecure men look and feel good, like a brand new Bentley Continental, but "fast women" have more in common with Lay's potato chips than luxury vehicles; meaning you can't eat just one, and if they're really delicious, everyone's got their hand in the bag.
So, while it might be every guy's dream to tame a wild stallion, it's a fool's errand that can often lead to years of child support, incarceration or death.
You'd think that would be enough to stop us from trying over and over again, but for many of us, the excitement of the journey and the promise of a hot, uninhibited sexual experience with no strings attached, is just too much of an adrenaline rush to pass up.
Once upon a time, it was fashionable for black men, like Snoop Dogg, to say "We don't love them hoes." Today, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Responding To B Simones "Outlandish" Comments
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